“Not Like Other Girls”

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You know that scene in almost every movie where the male protagonist looks deeply into a girl’s eyes and says, “You know, you are not like other girls,” and the girl takes it as a COMPLIMENT?

What is wrong with the ‘other girls’ you speak of?

They wear make-up and go to parties!!! OMG, so shallow!!!

So what? Is it wrong for a person to make a conscious effort to look good and socialise with others? Is it even more wrong than putting people down? Is it an even bigger crime than bullying?

Why are girls who party and wear make-up put down as shallow?

BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT CONFORMING TO PATRIARCHAL STEREOTYPES ABOUT GOOD GIRLS.

By constantly enforcing that ‘other girls’ are dumb, giggling creatures who only know how to flirt, you are putting down the women who fought for your rights. You are putting down women who have survived horrific cases of sexual assault and rape and still remain brave. You are putting down women who have gone beyond the call of duty to save lives. You are putting down your own mothers, sisters, aunts, nieces, cousins and daughters.

You are letting patriarchy win. You are letting them divide and conquer us.

false sense of entitlement

By making girls feel inherently ashamed to be a girl because ‘girls are catty drama queens’ (a stereotype created by media), patriarchy is trying to drive home the untruth that boys are better than girls.

 

Here’s what being like ‘other girls’ means. It means that you are kind, smart, warm, funny and a responsible person. Because this is what I’ve observed ‘other girls’ to be like.

Is it really such a bad thing to be like ‘other girls’? Think about it.

me and other girls

Every time you are tempted to tell, ‘I am not like other girls,’ remember that you are an ‘other girl’ to someone else.


 

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Talk To Me

Talk to me.

Tell me why you left me.

Flash that grin once again at me

It will last me for an eternity.

Talk to me.

Tell me why you left me.

A whisper in that husky voice

Will silence all my heart’s noise.

Talk to me.

Tell me why you left me.

I’m ready to wait for an infinity

To see that familiar wink at me.

Talk to me.

Tell me why you left me.

I miss your ringing laughter,

But I’ll love you forever after.

Oh, talk to me, please!

For Poetry 101 Rehab.

#1 Music Monday

Girl Power!

Girl Power!

So, I fell in love with Bridget’s Music Monday, and though I’m pretty late, I’d like to make my contribution.

1.Roar by Katy Perry

2.Blank Space by Taylor Swift

3. Firework by Katy Perry

4. O Gujariya from Queen

5. Jiya Re from Jab Tak Kain Jaan

What are YOUR favourite Girl Power songs? Let me know in the comments!

Quote

Life With A Bookworm

“You should date a girl who reads.
Date a girl who reads. Date a girl who spends her money on books instead of clothes, who has problems with closet space because she has too many books. Date a girl who has a list of books she wants to read, who has had a library card since she was twelve.

Find a girl who reads. You’ll know that she does because she will always have an unread book in her bag. She’s the one lovingly looking over the shelves in the bookstore, the one who quietly cries out when she has found the book she wants. You see that weird chick sniffing the pages of an old book in a secondhand book shop? That’s the reader. They can never resist smelling the pages, especially when they are yellow and worn.

She’s the girl reading while waiting in that coffee shop down the street. If you take a peek at her mug, the non-dairy creamer is floating on top because she’s kind of engrossed already. Lost in a world of the author’s making. Sit down. She might give you a glare, as most girls who read do not like to be interrupted. Ask her if she likes the book.

Buy her another cup of coffee.

Let her know what you really think of Murakami. See if she got through the first chapter of Fellowship. Understand that if she says she understood James Joyce’s Ulysses she’s just saying that to sound intelligent. Ask her if she loves Alice or she would like to be Alice.

It’s easy to date a girl who reads. Give her books for her birthday, for Christmas, for anniversaries. Give her the gift of words, in poetry and in song. Give her Neruda, Pound, Sexton, Cummings. Let her know that you understand that words are love. Understand that she knows the difference between books and reality but by god, she’s going to try to make her life a little like her favorite book. It will never be your fault if she does.

She has to give it a shot somehow.

Lie to her. If she understands syntax, she will understand your need to lie. Behind words are other things: motivation, value, nuance, dialogue. It will not be the end of the world.

Fail her. Because a girl who reads knows that failure always leads up to the climax. Because girls who read understand that all things must come to end, but that you can always write a sequel. That you can begin again and again and still be the hero. That life is meant to have a villain or two.

Why be frightened of everything that you are not? Girls who read understand that people, like characters, develop. Except in the Twilight series.

If you find a girl who reads, keep her close. When you find her up at 2 AM clutching a book to her chest and weeping, make her a cup of tea and hold her. You may lose her for a couple of hours but she will always come back to you. She’ll talk as if the characters in the book are real, because for a while, they always are.

You will propose on a hot air balloon. Or during a rock concert. Or very casually next time she’s sick. Over Skype.

You will smile so hard you will wonder why your heart hasn’t burst and bled out all over your chest yet. You will write the story of your lives, have kids with strange names and even stranger tastes. She will introduce your children to the Cat in the Hat and Aslan, maybe in the same day. You will walk the winters of your old age together and she will recite Keats under her breath while you shake the snow off your boots.

Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. You deserve a girl who can give you the most colorful life imaginable. If you can only give her monotony, and stale hours and half-baked proposals, then you’re better off alone. If you want the world and the worlds beyond it, date a girl who reads.

Or better yet, date a girl who writes.”

― Rosemarie Urquico