“Not Like Other Girls”

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You know that scene in almost every movie where the male protagonist looks deeply into a girl’s eyes and says, “You know, you are not like other girls,” and the girl takes it as a COMPLIMENT?

What is wrong with the ‘other girls’ you speak of?

They wear make-up and go to parties!!! OMG, so shallow!!!

So what? Is it wrong for a person to make a conscious effort to look good and socialise with others? Is it even more wrong than putting people down? Is it an even bigger crime than bullying?

Why are girls who party and wear make-up put down as shallow?

BECAUSE THEY ARE NOT CONFORMING TO PATRIARCHAL STEREOTYPES ABOUT GOOD GIRLS.

By constantly enforcing that ‘other girls’ are dumb, giggling creatures who only know how to flirt, you are putting down the women who fought for your rights. You are putting down women who have survived horrific cases of sexual assault and rape and still remain brave. You are putting down women who have gone beyond the call of duty to save lives. You are putting down your own mothers, sisters, aunts, nieces, cousins and daughters.

You are letting patriarchy win. You are letting them divide and conquer us.

false sense of entitlement

By making girls feel inherently ashamed to be a girl because ‘girls are catty drama queens’ (a stereotype created by media), patriarchy is trying to drive home the untruth that boys are better than girls.

 

Here’s what being like ‘other girls’ means. It means that you are kind, smart, warm, funny and a responsible person. Because this is what I’ve observed ‘other girls’ to be like.

Is it really such a bad thing to be like ‘other girls’? Think about it.

me and other girls

Every time you are tempted to tell, ‘I am not like other girls,’ remember that you are an ‘other girl’ to someone else.


 

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Beauty Behind The Fairness – A Rant

This was an interesting video that I came across while net surfing. And yeah, it’s true – women (and men) all over the world obsess over their body image. Thin, fat, tall short, fair, dark, (insert random rubbish feature that no one actually notices).

I’m not saying that I’m not body-conscious. I am. I fuss over everything – from my hairstyle to the nail on my little toe. Am I good enough? Am I pretty? Am I attractive? Will people like me? These annoying questions do pop up in my mind.

But seriously. Does anybody EVEN notice? I’m sure that you don’t sigh over your friend’s wonderful ear lobe and drool over her nail polish. Actually, have you even given active attention to those? No? Well, then you are like 90% of us.

It’s okay, good even, that you are not a supermodel. Chances are that others won’t be able to stand you then. Trust me. Do you like hanging out with a girl who looks like Angelina Jolie every day? Crap, I’m sure that even Jolie doesn’t look like Jolie every morning she wakes up with messed-up hair.

It’s not possible to look like that, and it’s time we accept it. Accept your beauty, and remember Lizzie Velasquez, aka The World’s “Ugliest” Woman. Shitty labels.